Humor is a powerful tool on a dating app, but it’s a tightrope walk. The right joke can make you instantly attractive to a woman, while the wrong one can send a match running. The golden rule is simple: Humor should be used to lower barriers and showcase personality, not to reinforce negative stereotypes or cynicism.

Remember, your goal is to make the girl smile, not think you're challenging her.

The safest and most effective type of humor is self-deprecating irony. A light, honest joke about one of your quirks or harmless failures shows that you don't take yourself too seriously—a highly desirable trait that signals confidence and humility to a woman.

For example, instead of a serious list of "likes," you could write: "My biggest talent is my ability to burn toast in an air fryer. Seeking a co-pilot who can manage the smoke detectors and appreciate my efforts." However, you must strictly avoid humor that relies on negativity, bitterness, or aggression toward dating in general.

That means no sarcasm or jokes at the expense of others, especially not about women, past partners, or physical appearance. Never punch down. Keep your profile bio and your first message light, witty, and focused on your unique, positive outlook.

A good laugh breaks the ice and instantly differentiates you from other men who are too serious or too dull. When a woman sees that you can laugh at yourself, she feels safer and more engaged.